Category: Psychotherapy

Techniques for Talking

You’ve probably heard of the expression “Feeling tongue tied”; meaning unable to speak or to speak fully.  Communication is often more challenging than we give credit.  Certainly, this also applies if you ever go to seek the help of a Counsellor or Psychotherapist.  My clients often get into the counselling room and then find that…

Approaching Self-Harm

To set the therapeutic context most widely regarded as integral to understanding and treating self-harm, one would consider the work of Melanie Klein (1882 – 1960).  Melanie Klein is widely regarded for developing Object Relations Theory.  An adult sufferer of depression herself and, through her work with one of Sigmund Freud’s (1856 – 1939)students; Sandor Ferenczi…

Trusting Your Gut Feeling

In my role as Counsellor and Psychotherapist, I am struck by the inter-play between mind and body.  For example, consider how often we refer to our guts!  We may speak of instinct as a ‘gut feeling’.  When we are faced with difficulty, we may say we ‘follow our gut’.  When we give advice, we may…

Loss is a Beautiful Tree

The days, months and years following the death of a loved one are an interesting experience.  We all live such experiences in our own unique ways.  Some live those years well, while others struggle to ever thrive again.   Certainly, as a Counsellor and Psychotherapist, I find that many of my clients see me for support around bereavement…

Overcoming Negative Beliefs

Albert Ellis (1913 – 2007) was born in Pennsylvania, USA, in 1913 and he went on to become a renowned and celebrated Psychologist.  My own research leads me to find that a lot has been written about the upheavals he faced in his younger life; from relocating to a life in New York at age four, the…

Putting Me In the Spotlight

I was recently interviewed about my work as a Counsellor, Psychotherapist and Clinical Supervisor for The Natural Health Centre Newsletter.  Here’s how the interview went: Dean, what first brought you into Counselling and Psychotherapy? Well, my upbringing was happy, but we experienced quite a lot of heartache; we sadly lost beloved family members to Leukaemia, Cancer and…

Australia Exposed

My Cousins; Jackie and Julie, who are Aussies, told me that everything is really upside-down in Australia.  This was where they came from, so who was I to argue?  This was back in the late 1970’s when they were, themselves, still kids and I was just six years old.  This is a photo of us, back…

Top Tips for Achieving Sleep

One of the things that my clients commonly struggle with, is their sleeping patterns.  Certainly, when we are experiencing emotional difficulty; for example at times of increased stress or anxiety, our ability to sleep can be disrupted. As a Counsellor and Psychotherapist, here are some of the things that I recommend: Set your morning wake-up…

Accreditation

Any decent Counsellor or Psychotherapist will continue to invest time in their own continuing professional development (CPD).  Sadly, all too often I am aware of Counsellors and Psychotherapists who try to do the bare minimum in terms of CPD.  Some even think that once they qualify, that is it, they are ready to practice for the rest of their…

Psychological Abuse in Law

Here in the UK, at the end of 2015, a landmark new law came into effect that criminalises the act of Psychological Abuse perpetrated against a Spouse, Partner or Family Member.  This is a major step forward in addressing the broader problem of Domestic Abuse where, historically, Domestic Abuse was only considered to be physical…